Fit For Intimacy
Intimacy: A familiar and very close affective connection with another as a result of a bond that is formed through knowledge and experience of the other—a sense of belonging together.
Angie Tsiatsos Phillips, MA, LPC, NCC, CMT
Hi and welcome to FitForIntimacy. I am a Somatic Psychotherapist–meaning I work with my clients through the lens of the body–which holds powerful, often untapped, wisdom that can lead us into the unknowns of the mind and can be a necessary resource for change. Often, in fact, our bodies can yield even more wisdom than our thinking brains. I’m also a movement facilitator, and I work with individuals, couples and groups. I lead workshops and trainings on Rewiring Relational Habits, as well as a quarterly eight-week course entitled Developing the Language of Love.
I bring a comprehensive approach to my clients; integrating psychoeducation, attuned reflection, and challenging yet effective practices that honor the unique needs of each individual and also provide a guided structure for powerful rewiring of emotional and relational habits.
My work includes Somatic awareness, Pragmatic/Experiential Therapy for Couples (PET-C), Mindfulness, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), movement & dance, Love & Logic Parenting, as well as fitness & nutritional guidance. I get excited about supporting people in their exploration of masculine and feminine natures and helping my clients deepen the transformative practices of intimacy, sexuality and eroticism. I also offer support for new mothers throughout pregnancy, birth and parenting–life-transformations with which I am intimately familiar. I see the therapeutic relationship as a reparative opportunity, where my clients first become aware of ineffective habits that have contributed to suffering, and then have the opportunity to learn and practice new habits in a safe and supportive space. I espouse a balance between solution-focused work and developing trust, over time, within the therapeutic relationship to allow for an organic rewiring of corrective attachment experiences and core relational behaviors.
My Personal Journey
Expressing ourselves intimately, with a partner; through sharing close personal space, touch, and emotional vulnerability is a bold and courageous way to be known; to be seen, and to bond deeply—to experience togetherness. And human beings have a strong need to do just that: To belong.
Most of my life has been dedicated to exploring how relationships embolden, enliven, exhaust, and enlighten our experience of life; and teaching others how we can inhabit our bodies in ways that express our inner worlds effectively and authentically, helping us to connect more fully with others.
From the time I was a child, I was drawn to engage with people beyond the surface. I had an almost insatiable need to be “met,” in fact. The details of that hardwiring can be left for a different page but, suffice it to say, relationship has, since I can remember, been the most defining and motivating force in my world.
After brokenness, hurt, and loss seemed to prevail—mine and others—I began exploring the one common denominator in all my failed relationships—Me! And so I chose to pursue an education that would integrate my personal journey with my desire to understand and serve the relational needs of others.
In 2006, I completed my Masters level education in Somatic Counseling Psychology at Naropa University in Boulder. Since then, I’ve done extensive training in therapeutic relationship models, gaining the highest training in Pragmatic/Experiential Therapy for Couples (PET-C) from Dr. Brent Atkinson, author of Emotional Intelligence in Couples Therapy: Advances in neurobiology and the science of intimate relationships and Developing Habits for Relationship Success. I now have the opportunity of leading trainings in this particular model, as well as facilitating a quarterly eight-week group that teaches the techniques known to support healthy intimacy.
For years prior, I’d owned and operated a Massage Therapy practice and was a Certified Personal Trainer—both of which ignited an intuitive grasp of how the mind is expressed through the body. My Masters thesis was a group study on the mental and emotional impact of an evolved Strength Training practice called Focus Intensity Training (FIT) developed by Shawn Phillips, which he featured in his most rent book, Strength for Life.
My passion has further grown to studying neuroscience and how one’s mind is literally hardwired throughout the body and, from this perspective, the BodyMind is utilized as a resource for emotional and psychobiological health.
In 2008, after the birth of my daughter, I discovered a form of dance-fitness called Afro-Caribe and have since become an instructor, furthering my understanding of how we literally move ourselves through the world—how our emoting bodies can help us redefine our processes of expression and “taking up space.” I now teach weekly classes, offer workshops and private instruction for those wanting to learn to become more present and engaged through the use of movement and dance.
Our bodies are vehicles for sharing our lives and whether we embody fear, rage, eroticism, awkwardness, wanting, sadness, playfulness; we can choose to be intimately known—one of the deepest needs of the human spirit—by sharing our unique experiences through our physical embodiment in the world. Choosing to be known in our fear, for example, might be beyond our immediate zone of comfort. However, in developing a foundation of trust in an intimate relationship, owning that valid, core emotion can deepen our capacity to acknowledge the full spectrum of our human essence.
My work with my clients at Noeticus Counseling Center & Training Institute is to help them explore their psychological worlds through their bodies and then help them find ways of resourcing their bodies, to access the depths of unexplored strength and wisdom. It is also to help shift the perception of people’s internal story of being “wrong” in the world, to owning the unique expression that has grown out of that person’s particular life path and learning to own the strengths connected to that developed wisdom. I am the Couples Clinic Program Coordinator, Staff Psychotherapist, and Clinical Supervisor at Noeticus.
While my specialty is working with couples and individuals in support of relational strength and intimacy, my other passion is the very foundation of life—birth and all it entails; from pre-natal health, education and support; to empowering women to fully experience the transformative power of birth and bonding–ultimately preparing for a life rich with intimacy!
I enjoy dance, singing, cycling, playing guitar, rock climbing, gardening, creating nourishing meals for my family, training, and yes—being a sexually, erotically alive woman! I earned my undergraduate degree in theater at Eastern Oregon University where I learned that making HUGE mistakes was my most direct path to learning. Most often you will find me mothering my two amazing children who teach me, daily, to draw myself into intimate contact; when I’m not serving in one of my other professional roles.
Thank you for stopping by and I hope we can connect.
For the Love of Your Life!